An aside...This week an article in the Guardian by Fraser McAlpine has been causing something of a stir in the adoption blogosphere. From my own reading of the article it seems to be a grossly misinformed, poorly argued and shoddy piece of journalism. Which is a shame because, ironically, I happen to agree with the main premise which Mr McAlpine is slowly edging towards.
In our own case our child retained their first name, given to them by their birth parents - something with which we were perfectly comfortable. What we did do, apparently quite common, was to add an additional middle name of our own choosing. That was an arrangement with which our social workers were quite content and, indeed, encouraged. Our child has now, post adoption order, taken on our surname. Life story work still lies ahead of us. However, creating a coherent narrative for them of who they are from birth to the present is something to which we are committed and which we see as vital in assisting them to grow up into their own, complete person.